The Whimsy Diary

Swipe left or right? From hand-written, heart-felt, and detailed letters to instant messages or DMs as the kids call them, dating has taken a dramatic turn in the 21st century. But how did we get here, and what does it mean for the future of romance? The evolution of dating has been shaped by significant social, cultural, and economic changes throughout history. Arranged marriages were once the norm, but as societies developed, the concept of romantic love emerged, and marriage for love became more accepted. The rise of chivalry and courtly love emphasized the adoration and worship of a lady from afar, while the growth of cities and industrialization led to increased social mobility and the rise of dating as we know it today. As feminism and counterculture movements gained momentum, traditional norms around dating and relationships were challenged, and the emergence of online dating, social media, and dating apps has transformed the way people meet and interact, with a growing emphas...

  Tell me exactly how you feel Is it love, or disdain? There’s no harm in letting me know Because not another chance will there be after I’m gone I’d rather you blurt it out, so we get to live the life we should   Please be nice to me now Tell me how great you think I am now that I’m alive Don’t wait till death outruns and heaven calls I won’t even hear you say it, I’ll be gone Don’t bring flowers to my funeral I want my flowers while I am alive Now that I am alive  

When I dream, I don’t want to wake up To be honest, I feel disappointed Disappointed because when I open my eyes it's all different The world in my dreams and imagination is a contrast from the world I see around me The world I see when I close my eyes is fascinating, it's enchanting, it feels like I'm living my dreams in my dream - a fairytale But then I open my eyes and reality hits like a nightmare - like a horrible dream   I can't seem to wake up from   If only these contrasting worlds could agree to give me that paradise my heart yearns for! If only they could collide to bring forth what I want the most But what can I do? Live my dreams in this nightmare called reality?

  Do you find it difficult to say no to your family, friends, or co-workers? Do you find yourself saying yes to or doing something you never thought you’d, or simply just don’t want to? Why is that? And why is it important to get a hold of your ability to say no and set boundaries for your well-being. Why is it important to start doing you and not somebody else? Let’s begin with why it’s difficult to say no. We say yes to a lot of things, sometimes uncomfortable, or unspeakable things for a lot of reasons. The fear of rejection for one, makes us worry that declining a request will damage relationships or make us seem unkind. It is an inherent human need to feel loved, accepted and should I say, praised. Sometimes we fear that saying no to a person, and thereby displeasing them, might cause them to pull away from us, or change their views and attitudes towards us, and that leads to my next point – people pleasing. Often, you’ll find that we prioritize the needs of others over ours...

In today's hyper-connected world, social media platforms like Instagram, Facebook, TikTok, and Twitter have become virtual mirrors reflecting our lives back at us. But are these reflections genuine, or are they distorted funhouse mirrors that warp our self-perception? As we scroll through carefully curated feeds, it's easy to fall into the trap of comparison, measuring our worth against the highlight reels of others. This digital comparison culture can erode our self-esteem, skew our body image, and even alter our sense of identity. How do we navigate this maze of idealized personas and still maintain a healthy relationship with ourselves? In this article, we will delve into the complex ways social media shapes our self-perception and explore strategies to reclaim our self-worth in the age of digital self-expression.   Before the advent of the internet and social media, a person's self-image was determined by what they knew to be true about themselves, people around the...

 I need to start taking this a little more seriously. I have a few things to share today. A few articles I've been working on, and some old poems too. Enjoy! (I hope).